How to Lead Him to "Loveland"

Have you ever wondered why men and women think so much differently than each other? Have you also wondered what is their time frame and why doesn't it match ours? When you are madly in love with him did you ever think that he just isn't ready for that? Sometimes y

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ou have tried your hardest in this relationship and nothing seems to make him fall in love so you think that it's time to give up and move on. Don't do it. He may just be getting to the point of thinking about falling in love. You have to have some patience with him since they move much slower then women. But there is a light at the end of the tunnel. It may take a lot longer for men to fall in love but he will eventually think that you are the one and then he won't turn back.

There are many bumps in the road to make him fall in love with you. There used to be some steadfast rules as to the role a man plays in a relationship and dating. They were required to be the pursuer and ultimately be in control of the relationship. Of course, those rules just don't apply today. With the old rules men knew where they stood and what steps to take.

In light of these changes men have become confused. Women are able to be the pursuer and to ask men out on dates. They are forward and chase them to get a relationship started. Now men are in the dark as to what their role is and what they should do with the woman taking over their parts.

Once the relationship is established men really don't know what to do here either. They used to be the providers and protectors and women were wives and mothers. Today a woman can assume the roles of a man. Men naturally have wondered now what they should do in a relationship and if their woman actually needs them. Things have been turned upside down and the old dating rules just don't apply anymore.

Actually, we are learning that the old dating rules really weren't that bad after all. Men have to feel needed and to make a man fall in love the woman has to remember that he will have to be aware of the male psychology.

Here are some tips to help you with this problem :

Look and feel attractive and alluring but make him feel in control to ask you out on a date. Put him at ease by letting him assume the role of the traditional man and let him pursue you.

Keep the relationship easy and free. If you come on too strong they will feel the pressure and back off.

Keep you time frame the same as his which is slow. Men take much longer to develop feelings and relationships. Talk freely with him about feelings and yourself but don overwhelm him with your undying love yet.

Men will be more apt to open up and share his feelings with you if you create an atmosphere of security and no pressure. If you insist on moving faster he will run the other way.

Stay in the relationship and make him fall in love by having fun and not expecting too much from him too soon. When he enjoys the relationship he will be back for more.

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